25 Subjective Truths I’ve Learned
(true for me, perhaps true for you)
Take what you like, try it on, leave the rest.
25 Subjective Truths I’ve Learned
(true for me, perhaps true for you)
It’s ok if things feel awkward. It’s ok that sometimes you feel awkward.
You deserve the most loving and supportive people around you, always. There’s no reason why you should subject yourself to relationships that don’t make you feel good. You don’t need to settle.
You actually don’t owe anybody, anything. May sound harsh but also is true. Your responsibility is to yourself first, and yes that is selfish and no, selfish isn’t necessarily a bad thing, that’s societal conditioning that says you should prioritize others needs and preferences before your own.
---> 3a. This does not mean that we shouldn’t care about others’ feelings or shirk responsibility where we’ve legitimately harmed or caused someone emotional distress. This does not mean that we only care about ourselves. We are interdependent beings and we live together, we are Supposed to care about our fellow humans. We are supposed to care about the Earth we are inhabiting. By validating and prioritizing our own genuine needs and preferences, we can better serve others and contribute to the world around us in a positive and fruitful way.
It’s a more enjoyable, honest way to live, believing that you deserve to take up as much space as the people you compromised yourself and spirit for for years and years.
Taking responsibility for your own actions, behaviors, and feelings will literally make your life so much easier and enhance your relationships tenfold.
There’s nooooo rush. Take your time. Take even more time. Need more time? Great.
Fuck grind culture, you should be enjoying your work.
---> 7a. there’s nuance here, obviously, you can’t be happy every moment of the day.
It’s essential for the health of the planet to have more people living in true alignment with their values. Are you? Where in your life can you make a little (or large) shift? You get to choose your values! You get to choose what’s important for you! Interestingly, you may find that the values you hold are already within you--you just need to do a little digging to reveal what they are.
If you have the privilege of choosing something more enjoyable and correct and aligned for you, please do it. Please. Many people don’t have that privilege.
Don’t tell people what to do, you don’t live in their body.
Be contradictory ! Change your mind ! Surprise people !
It’s ok to not have opinions on everything you’re ‘“supposed’’’ to have opinions about. Question any entity that is telling you that you ‘need’ to think a certain way.
The choice that doesn’t make the most ‘sense’ but feels like the correct choice is the one to make. Don’t you fucking ‘should’ on yourself !
Lean into feeling sad & angry, when you feel sad or angry. It’s here to show you something.
Other people will have reactions to what you say and do. That’s actually normal and ok and they should be allowed to have a reaction to your words without you trying to manipulate how they feel about what you’re telling them. Like, you might make a decision that disappoints someone else and they are allowed to be disappointed about it, you don’t have to try and talk them out of it or prevent them from feeling what they are authentically feeling.
Pay attention to when you feel good about yourself, or when you consciously do something differently.
Awareness allows for agency! ( say it again ! LOUDER ! ) AWARENESS ALLOWS FOR AGENCY
It’s alright to quit or leave, it just means you can move on to something / someone more aligned. Be selective about who and what you allow into your mental / physical / emotional space.
Open yourself to the possibility that things you want to be different could be different. (and then see what happens!) Imagination is for adults, too.
You have an inner authority to help you make decisions. It’s your sacred birthright to make choices for yourself. Don’t let yourself become indoctrinated. Don’t pedestalize anyone.
Honesty builds trust, for the correct relationships in your life
You can ask for what you want and need, and you can also just tell people what you want and need (if you know what you want and need which you may not yet. Things take time, remember?). And if they can’t meet you where you need them to be, they aren’t the correct people for you.
It’s ok to move on from people. Be kind and responsible about it.
Normalizing therapy & medication is soooo 2015. Let’s move on, if you haven’t normalized it in your own head, consider this your invitation and request to do so. There’s bigger and more important things to get to, now. We need more mentally / psychologically healthy people to step into their power so we can serve the world in bigger and brighter and more Actually Impactful ways. I love therapy and (properly administered) medication. And also -- non-traditional (non-talk therapy) is just as valuable. People need different things, we are unique and differentiated beings.
Nuance ! Is ! Essential ! For ! Everything ! Embrace subtlety, resist homogenization.
thank you for reading, feel free to leave your responses.
I feel like not enough people are speaking to 24.
On this buffet, I would be consuming #4, #5 and #12.