Respect the void

Let it take you somewhere better.

The void

Any new beginning is an opportunity to clear out what you don’t want and invite in what you do. In the interim is the void — the space between what is coming and what we left behind. You must learn to live in and go through the void so that it can take you somewhere truer and better. This isn’t necessarily because what you left behind was ‘bad’, but because there are things you are meant to experience that require change and letting go.

The void brings uncertainty, and often, fear. It’s distressing to see a huge hole in your life where something used to be — and maybe that last thing was really great, so why did you have to let go of it? Can’t you go back to that good thing? What if the next thing is worse? It’s easy to be driven by fear when faced with a void, hence the common tendency is to scramble to fill the space to escape the emptiness. We want to have things to hold onto to feel safe.

But the void must be respected — regardless of why it’s here, it’s here to teach and expand you. The ‘right’ things will come to fill the emptiness, if you are patient and present. The things that bring you real deal satisfaction or peace or joy or success or delight will come. Leave the space blank until you know what you want there. Try some things out in the meantime, but no need to force anything into place. Let time do its good work to bring what’s right for you, to you.

I don’t know — trust v fear

Uncertainty is a lifelong player that we can learn to dance with. It need not be so daunting — if you trust yourself and have faith in something greater than you, there is not much to fear.

You don’t have to be swallowed by the void of uncertainty or fill it with packing peanuts. You can let the space be there, and inch your way through, stopping to pause, feeling it all, dreaming up what might be on the other side and not settling for anything less than what you’ve realized you want, and therefore, deserve. The emptiness you are experiencing is the gap you need to get to where you ‘want’ to be — even if you don’t even know where that is yet.

I don’t know and I’m scared is an entirely different energy than I don’t know, and I’m interested in what might happen. One makes us small and one helps us grow. If we can approach uncertainty in the void with curiosity, and wait for life to show us what’s meant to fill it — we can feel when clarity arrives. We can feel the sweetness of what actually feels right, because we have waited for it. It’s just, quite frankly, worth it to wait.

If you are patient, if you can live in the void intentionally with trust and gratitude — the void will take you somewhere better.

And it really can get better and better, again and again.

 xx, maggie